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Words of Encouragement

I have known many people to come to me again and again to complain about how they are good and everyone else is bad. When I say everyone, I normally mean people who are their bosses, their coworkers or their acquaintances.

I see this a lot in others. This blame superiors, blame peers or authorities attitude. It is a self-inflicted injury that causes people to hurt their whole lives. The people they complain about don't care, they're often dicks, just like you said they are, so why allow yourself to hurt when they aren't? Why give your boss, coworker or acquaintance the satisfaction? If you want to combat this needless suffering, please adopt the following mentality, ASSUMING you are actually right about these folks: Reality is, people can be shit, and it's not your job to fix them. It is your job to fix you, and be the best person you can be. When you're dealing with frustrating people, it doesn't help you to mope. Stop allowing yourself to dwell in how fucked up and horrible some people are. They're shit, and they're going to keep being shit regardless of what you do.


Do you really want to let the people who you think are so bad, ruin your day or days? You have to live your life. If one person chews popcorn in a theater, does that make the film itself suck? Then why do so many apply the same logic to life? A small group of people are trash, so that makes life trash? Of course not. An analogy: You run over a cactus in the desert and it destroys a tire of yours. Fuck, that sucks... what is the more productive route? Route 1: Cry all day about how the cactus punctured your tire, continue driving once you fix your tire, only to drive over another cactus and repeat for the rest of your life. "The cactus is at fault, so I don't have to change anything! I did nothing wrong!"

Route 2: Drive somewhere else, where there are no spike plants and/or put thicker tires on that cacti can't pierce so you never have to cry and moan again? "Yes, the cactus sucks, but, I can prevent myself from being hurt by it in the future!" Obviously, the "I'm a victim" route in fine in many cases - victims of numerous horrible things exist and feeling bad is often part of the healing process - but the question becomes, how can you make the best of what you go through when there is no better alternative? Instead of moaning about the problem, how can you make it so you don't have the same problem in the future?


How can you help others live better lives, when they go through similar things?


Life happens: So how are you going to make the best of it?

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Unknown member
Nov 23, 2022

I always try to be the best person I can be. I'm good to everybody until they give me a reason not to be. Still, when people do me wrong, I simply distance myself from them. I might start out slow if it's someone I was close to, but over time, my distance increases until my relationship is all but non-existent. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt at first, but when they cross the line, I'm done.

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Unknown member
Nov 23, 2022

i used to want to help others and sometimes i would worry if for example they were a smoker i would worry about their future and what would happen to them since ive done research and know about the effects and dangers of many smoking products like vapes and cigarettes' and many drugs like weed and ive learnt from you and from self reflection that i shouldn't worry about other people since its their life and their choice and i cant be their parent and force them to do something even if what they are doing is bad so i mainly focus on my own life and what's going on in my life because i can only control me and…

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Unknown member
Nov 22, 2022

You remember my post about my boyfriend? Well, ex boyfriend.. Im dating a new person as of two weeks ago

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Unknown member
Nov 23, 2022
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It's no worries. I only talked about it once.

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Unknown member
Nov 22, 2022

Haven't heard something so balanced and temperet since reading Marcus Aurelius.

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Unknown member
Nov 22, 2022
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"You have power over your mind - not outside events."

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Unknown member
Nov 22, 2022

This is why I stay away from people I don't like or at least try not to be around them much if I can help it because I don't want anything to do with them. I rather live my life and forget about them.

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Unknown member
Nov 22, 2022
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Gotta keep the balance/sanity of your own life.

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